Saturday, 23 May 2009

The Feminine Mystique and Its Body-Dress Connection

We, as females, often think about how to turn out to be
more attractive for our male companions. Anyone would
prefer a woman that knows how to let men's imagination run
wild about the feminine mystique of her body that he
cannot see because clothing obscures such intent. Now,
again, how does that work? Well, you – as a woman –
must dress as relaxed as you like (because this is the
main purpose of clothing), but at the same time you have
to keep as much of your body hidden from the male's eyes.
In this manner, he would begin to "look for" you, to
desire you more and more each time you two meet. His
imagination will be over the fence, for that naked shoulder
that you show evidence of, for that knee-high black dress
that you simply possess.

Nevertheless, you are the hunter and he is the prey because
you decide when this game goes to the next level. You
decide how much to show him. This is your ambiguity at
work. The feminine unknown has been the subject matter of
many epic poems (Homer tells us in his Iliad that an
entire war was fought for a woman, Helen); it has been the
topic of some of the greatest sculptures (I can tell you
here of the statue of the goddess Nike); it is the subject
of the most famous picture in the world (yes, I am talking
about Leonardo Da Vinci's Gioconda). Can someone tell me
why these women (Helen, Nike and Gioconda) are so famous?
The answer is simple. Let me say a few words about Mona
Lisa. She is not such a beautiful woman, at least by
today's standards. However, she has always been a standard
of beauty. This does not happen because she has blond hair,
or artificially enhanced breasts, or anything else that is
unnatural. She is simply being her. She just stays there
and smiles at you, as if winking. No one knows why she is
smiling, no one knows even if she is actually winking. She
is playing with Da Vinci. She is inviting him over, she
tells him to come closer, she lures him with her bear
shoulders; but at the same time she tells him to keep the
proper distance. She is the essence, the symbol of feminine
mystery.

Now, the obvious question is, "how can you, the modern
woman, be just like her?" As I have tried to understate
earlier, the physical appearance counts less than other
things when it comes to mystery, (you should look at the
goddess Nike – she does not even have arms, not to mention
the head). For us, modern women, the main thing that
counts is the clothes. They are our main "unknown" factor.
The garment and the manner in which we interpret to wear
it are the aspects that create mystery and desire.
Everything else is secondary.

Nowadays, more than ever, we are trying to find that path
to our own femininity. Our main goal, however, is not to
impress men, but to feel just the way we are supposed to
feel. If shortly after the "The feminine mystique"
appeared published, women all around the world began to
wear pants and ties, now women are trying to re-define
themselves by wearing what they should wear: dresses and
purses. A dress is not only a clothing item. A dress is a
timesaver that helps a woman to spare time when it is
difficult to choose from an entire wardrobe. A dress is the
closest friend when you have some minor flaws to
camouflage. A dress is the most feminine item from a
wardrobe, but it is also fun, too. It gives you the
sensation of being young again. Even if pants used to be
the symbol of power in the past (maybe that is why women
started wearing them), now dresses are the ones that come
up front. As we all might know, a little black dress is
perfect when you want to play the unsolved type.
Nevertheless, if you wear a dress, apart from the fact
that you light a fire in the men's imagination, you get to
dominate entirely your partner. Just think about it –
being only mysterious brings him to his knees; what if you
added that sense of self-confidence, which he will feel as
power? The world, and not only his world, will be yours
for the taking. Now, the focus should not be on dresses
only. The skirts (not the mini-skirts) are yet another way
of getting in touch with the mystery that lies inside of
you. The black skirts are my favorite, with hemlines
floating little below the knee. Add a short jacket (but a
not too short one) of a soft structure, and you will get
the same effect. In addition, this type of outfit is easy
to wear on every occasion, without damaging your looks.

Make-up is another interesting way to become more confident
and enigmatic at the same time. Even if it is not the
first method of boosting your femininity, it remains one of
the most favorite ways of pleasing ourselves.

Now, let us make a little recap: it is very important that
we feel confident in the clothes we choose and the make-up
we wear. But the feminine power gets born within from a
moment when we, as woman, find our individuality, class and
intelligence that creates the confidence which then we can
easily express to the world through the dress.


About the Author:

Fashion Designer explains a Psychological aproach to
Feminine Mystique and its Body- Dress connection.
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